– Being attentive is not to be confused with stalking. Common sense and moderation are your friends. Facebooking her second-grade BFF to find out what kind of candy she liked back in the day is just creepy.
– Giving is no guarantee that you’ll “begetting some.” While your main motivation may be action/reaction based, doing nice things for a woman does not obligate her to “put out.”
That said, employ your powers of perception well, apply what you’ve learned judiciously and you just might find yourself a much happier sexual camper if you do try this stuff at home.
Subtle ways to put her in the mood
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Right on cue
When it comes to really turning on a lady, picking up on her cues when she’s not dropping hints may lead to more than just a “thank you” and a peck on the cheek.
If the girl you’re interested in talks about a book that blew her away, mentions something she ate that sent her into foodgasm or waxes poetic regarding whatever [fill in the blank] she’s got a passion for, make a mental note, then follow up.
The next time you’re surfing the ’net, order her favorite author’s new novel or something vintage she may have missed. When you’re out and about, grab a loaf of that fresh baked bread she was raving about, or pick up some of the craft-brewed beer she said was “better than sex,” and you may have the chance to find out if she was right.
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Dirty birds don’t fly
Groom yourself. Trimming errant hairs from your back, nose and manly zones is fine, but you don’t need to go scorched earth and defoliate the entire jungle (unless you both think bald is beautiful, then go for it). Just don’t forget your body doesn’t end at the knees. Gnarly, nasty feet have scuttled many an amorous adventurer. Keep your toenails neatly trimmed at all times and you’ll always be ready for spontaneous acts of amorous combustion. (Got stubborn foot stench? Tea-tree oil soap used on a regular basis often works where all else fails. Really.)
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Dr. Feelgood’s prescription
One quick prescription that can lead to mutual sexual healing is to do something to de-stress your lover’s life without being asked. Fix or replace something that’s broken. If she’s having a tough week at work, cook dinner or pick up some takeout. Even something small… like changing a moldy shower curtain or walking her dog… anything that lightens her load, will both free up her time, show that you care and make you seem a little bit like a hero.
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Love stinks…in a good way
Mother Nature gifted us with five senses, but when it comes to sexual arousal, the genders are not necessarily wired up using the same diagram. Men tend to be aroused by visual cues. The majority of women, on the other hand, are often more immediately turned on by what they’re being told by their noses.
The information that comes to women via the sense of smell takes a direct route to the most primal part of our lizard brains. Consequently, aromas that evoke a sense of calm and wellbeing for women can lead to bigger and wetter things. Conversely, even some so-called “good” smells—perfumes, certain foods or flowers, etc.—can spell death to her desires. Each woman has a personal filing cabinet of smells that induce positive or negative reactions. Get to know what smells your lady likes and what turns her off, and scent or avoid for her triggers accordingly.
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Chore thing
For those who cohabitate or spend a significant amount of time at one another’s place, police your own mess. Laundry on the floor and dishes in the sink are not aphrodisiacs, and making a women feel like the maid, unless it’s a French maid, can totally kill her libido. Clean up your act, however, and you just might reap the rewards in bed—especially if you’ve gone to the trouble of making it up with crisp, freshly washed linen.
When it comes to really turning on a lady, picking up on her cues when she’s not dropping hints may lead to more than just a “thank you” and a peck on the cheek.
If the girl you’re interested in talks about a book that blew her away, mentions something she ate that sent her into foodgasm or waxes poetic regarding whatever [fill in the blank] she’s got a passion for, make a mental note, then follow up.
The next time you’re surfing the ’net, order her favorite author’s new novel or something vintage she may have missed. When you’re out and about, grab a loaf of that fresh baked bread she was raving about, or pick up some of the craft-brewed beer she said was “better than sex,” and you may have the chance to find out if she was right.
Dirty birds don't fly
Groom yourself. Trimming errant hairs from your back, nose and manly zones is fine, but you don’t need to go scorched earth and defoliate the entire jungle (unless you both think bald is beautiful, then go for it). Just don’t forget your body doesn’t end at the knees. Gnarly, nasty feet have scuttled many an amorous adventurer. Keep your toenails neatly trimmed at all times and you’ll always be ready for spontaneous acts of amorous combustion. (Got stubborn foot stench? Tea-tree oil soap used on a regular basis often works where all else fails. Really.)
Dr. Feelgood's prescription
One quick prescription that can lead to mutual sexual healing is to do something to de-stress your lover’s life without being asked. Fix or replace something that’s broken. If she’s having a tough week at work, cook dinner or pick up some takeout. Even something small… like changing a moldy shower curtain or walking her dog… anything that lightens her load, will both free up her time, show that you care and make you seem a little bit like a hero.
Love stinks...in a good way
Mother Nature gifted us with five senses, but when it comes to sexual arousal, the genders are not necessarily wired up using the same diagram. Men tend to be aroused by visual cues. The majority of women, on the other hand, are often more immediately turned on by what they’re being told by their noses.
The information that comes to women via the sense of smell takes a direct route to the most primal part of our lizard brains. Consequently, aromas that evoke a sense of calm and wellbeing for women can lead to bigger and wetter things. Conversely, even some so-called “good” smells—perfumes, certain foods or flowers, etc.—can spell death to her desires. Each woman has a personal filing cabinet of smells that induce positive or negative reactions. Get to know what smells your lady likes and what turns her off, and scent or avoid for her triggers accordingly.
Chore thing
For those who cohabitate or spend a significant amount of time at one another’s place, police your own mess. Laundry on the floor and dishes in the sink are not aphrodisiacs, and making a women feel like the maid, unless it’s a French maid, can totally kill her libido. Clean up your act, however, and you just might reap the rewards in bed—especially if you’ve gone to the trouble of making it up with crisp, freshly washed linen.
